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Lawn Chair Catechism, Session 6

LawnChairCatechismSquare This summer, CatholicMom.com is hosting an on-line book discussion group for Sherry Weddell’s Forming Intentional Disciples. Each session will focus on one chapter of the book, and yours truly is participating. Hit the link above to see all of the participants, and to find the discussion questions.

According to Weddell (based on her own experience and extensive research by others) there are five thresholds a person must cross towards intentional discipleship during the process of evangelization. The first is “Initial Trust”: before a person can even begin to learn about the faith, they need to cross the “bridge of trust”. There needs to be some positive association with the faith. It might be a person, but it might not: Weddell mentions one fellow whose bridge of trust was Linus’ reading from the gospel during the annual Peanuts Christmas Special.

This week I’m going to dive right into the discussion questions.

How was the bridge of trust built for you? That’s a difficult question. I was raised Catholic, and though in high school I tried to persuade myself that there was nothing in it, that wasn’t due to any real doubts: I simply found God’s existence to be inconvenient. That phase didn’t last long, and though a number of people were involved in bringing it to a close, it was really all down to God. You might say that I really did believe that He was the Lord of creation, even though I didn’t like it much. Even when I didn’t trust in Him, I at least trusted Him to be Him. Since that time, with some ups and downs, I’ve always had at least the ghost of an intention to be a disciple.

Who are the people who helped you to come as far as you have in your personal journey? I’m tempted to say, “all of them” and leave it at that. There have been so many over the years. I’ve written about my reversion to Catholicism in the past; that was in 2007, and a number of Catholic bloggers unwittingly played major roles in making the Church attractive, including Mark Shea, Amy Welborn, and most especially Julie Davis.

Have you ever been that link of trust for another person? I don’t know. I’m a lay-member of the Order of Preachers, and I was first convinced of the importance of evangelization over twenty-five years ago; still, I’ve no evidence that I’m any good at. I can think of one person for whom I might have been a link of trust; and there might be many others, only I don’t know about them. Some people plant seeds, and some people get to harvest, and my suspicion (and hope) is that I’m one of the former, because I certainly don’t seem to be one of the latter.

Monsters University

So my eldest and I went to see Monsters University last night (Jane and the younger kids saw it on Monday). Not bad; not one of Pixar’s best, but competently done. I thought it was a little heavy on message (i.e., more like a typical Disney movie than a Pixar flick), but on the other hand the message is one that I agree with 100%: you can succeed if you’re willing to work hard…and you’re realistic about your strengths and weaknesses.

This is a refreshing change from the typical kid’s movie, which is usually about following your dreams: if you want something bad enough, you’ll get it. That sounds like Nietzsche’s triumph of the will, to me. In reality, reality always wins; and you do much better to work with it rather than against it.

Lawn Chair Catechism, Session 5

LawnChairCatechismSquare This summer, CatholicMom.com is hosting an on-line book discussion group for Sherry Weddell’s Forming Intentional Disciples. Each session will focus on one chapter of the book, and yours truly is participating. Hit the link above to see all of the participants, and to find the discussion questions.

I found myself engaging in some unintentional discipleship this past week. Last Thursday evening my wife slipped on the stairs and ended spraining her ankle quite badly. Four-to-six weeks badly.

Her right ankle.

Which is to say, her driving ankle.

It’s amazing how much easier it is to love others and put them first in a Christ-like way when they don’t, you know, actually need anything from you.

But I digress.

Chapter 5 of Forming Intentional Disciples is entitled “Grace and the Great Quest”; and it’s mostly about how a proper interior disposition is needed to receive all the grace from the sacraments. To give an example of my own, sacramental marriage is a major source of grace for learning to live with your spouse, and ultimately with your family, and for growth in holiness—if you expect it to be, and if you live accordingly. If you go into a Catholic marriage thinking mostly about the reception, and with plans to split up if it doesn’t work, grace might be scarce on the ground. (The grace doesn’t go away, mind you; it’s there waiting for your disposition to change. God is good, all the time.) God gives us the grace, and we truly cooperate with it.

For example, God gives me the grace to humbly and cheerfully drive four children and one spouse to everywhere they need to go, whilst making sure that everyone eats and stuff gets washed, and it short to do all the stuff Jane usually does as well as what I usually do. It’s up to me to cooperate with that, and I do. Mostly. Sometimes. Except for sometimes, especially late in the afternoon, when I just get irritated. While my kids are at Crossfit, I’m having a cross fit.

But I digress.

The discussion question is, It can be hard to settle our minds on the idea of “cooperating with grace”. How would you explain the Catholic doctrine on salvation to others?

Now this is something I’ve thought about a lot over the years. During my Protestant excursion, I read a number of “reformed” thinkers, who insisted that we could do nothing, I mean nothing towards our own salvation. We couldn’t even say, “Yes, Lord” to his offer of salvation; that was saving ourselves by our works. For all intents and purposes, God had to say it for us. (R.C. Sproul, I’m looking at you here.)

During that period I came up with an illustration:

Suppose your town is flooded, and you’re stuck on your roof, and the water is rising, and you’re afraid you’re going to drown. And a helicopter flies over, and drops a rope ladder. If you grab the ladder and climb up, are you saving yourself? Well, sure: but you couldn’t do it without the helicopter, and the pilot is the one who will get the credit. You’re just cooperating with the pilot to save your life.

Similarly, Christ has redeemed all men and women all over the world…but we still need to take up our crosses and follow him, as the gospel reading said last Sunday.

Interesting

So our internet connection has been flakey for the last week. We’ve seen this once in a while: we’ll have problems for a day and then it will go away again for a long time. I’ve always figured that it’s the provider’s fault; they are doing something to the line that’s screwing up the DSL connection. Once, about six months ago, it definitely was the phone company’s fault; the phone line got so noisy that you couldn’t use it for voice calls. We complained, they did something, and all was well.

This time, though, the phone line sounded fine; and we had the internet coming and going every few minutes for 24 hours. I called our provider, and talked to a kind gentleman from India, who after a time concluded that it must be our DSL modem, which had been in service since 2004, and which certainly needed to be replaced. He’d send us a new (refurbished) one for free, plus enough shipping to cover the cost of a new one.

OK; so I had him send it. And the next day, the ‘net was working perfectly, and when it showed up I left it in its box.

Since then, though, we’ve had five or six days when the ‘net has been unreliably flakey. That is, we’ve had hours when it works fine followed by hours when it’s completely gone, followed by erratic ups and downs. So tonight, I did the deed and replaced the old one.

This is the point where I talk about how the kind Indian gentleman was all wet, and how it still doesn’t work, and how I’m going to switch providers, and like that.

Except…it seems to be working just fine. Not only that, web pages are loading a lot faster. We’ll see how it goes over the next couple of days.

The TARDIS Has Landed

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Some while back, Jane and I spent a number of weekends test-driving various fun cars. As a quick recap, the MINI Cooper won; and the rented Mazda Miata with 97,000 miles tied with an ancient (but well-preserved) bottom-of-the-line Toyota pickup. Fast forward a couple years, and there’s the upshot, to the left there.

We call it the TARDIS.

  • It’s a blue box.
  • It takes me to different places at different times.
  • It has a chameleon circuit so that it can change its appearance (i.e., the top goes up and down).
  • And (drum roll) it’s bigger on the outside than on the inside!

There is some dispute as to what the word “TARDIS” stands for. Here are the current contenders:

  • Transporting A Relaxed Dad In Style
  • Top And Related Devices, Including Seats
  • Towards And Relative Directions In Streets

Any suggestions?

I’d like to point out again that it is blue. Blue. BLUE.

I have always wanted a bright sky-blue car. Sky blue is not often available, but when shopping for a car I’ve always looked for something as close to it as possible. And for a variety of reasons always ended up with some shade of metallic red.

When I started looking at MINI Coopers, I didn’t like the shades of blue they had available; so when we went to the dealer to do some serious shopping a couple of months ago, I was looking to get a bright red one: a bright, non-metallic flashy red. (Heck, it’s a convertible!) And we walked out on the lot to due a test drive, and there was a pretty little MINI Roadster in this beautiful sky blue. “Wow! How come the regular convertible doesn’t come in this color?” “Oh, it does. It’s called Kite Blue.”

Clearly, I should have tried shopping for a red car years ago.

Lawn Chair Catechism, Session 4

LawnChairCatechismSquare This summer, CatholicMom.com is hosting an on-line book discussion group for Sherry Weddell’s Forming Intentional Disciples. Each session will focus on one chapter of the book, and yours truly is participating. Hit the link above to see all of the participants, and to find the discussion questions.

In Chapter 3 of Forming Intentional Disciples, Sherry Weddell describes a couple of parishes where the percentage of disciples is high, and how dramatically different they are from parishes where the percentage is more typical. She also explains one of the reasons why our parishes might not bear all of the fruit we might hope for: all too often the people running the programs aren’t themselves disciples, and so aren’t operating out of their Spirit-given charisms.

The Catherine of Siena Institute has for many years been conducting “Called & Gifted” workshops, in which they work with normal Catholics to help them begin to discern their charisms, the gifts the Holy Spirit has given to them, particularly to them, to help build up the Body of Christ. We will be most fruitful when we are doing the kind of things we’ve been given the charisms to do, and much less so otherwise. (Do not ask me to head up a hospitality-based ministry. Just don’t.) But charisms manifest in disciples, and so in order to take our parishes where they need to be, we need disciples who discern their charisms and use them.

This may sound more complicated than it is. Part of being a disciple is being will to submit—ooooh! it burns!—submit, I say, to Christ and his call. If we can begin to repent, and follow his lead, he will lead us where he needs us to be. No program can bring this about in my life; it takes me saying, “Lord, let it be done to me according to your will.” This is scary, but necessary. From it everything follows.

Anyway.

While re-reading this chapter, I experienced again the same feeling I had so many times while reading the book for the first time: I want this. I want to see this happen in my parish. I want to help make it happen. I dunno how to go about that; but look back at the previous paragraph. If I’m a disciple, Jesus will lead me into the things I need to do. I need to be a disciple, and to be ready. I admit to being curious as to what will happen.

Simcha Fisher Sits Down at Patheos

Because I blog sometimes at Happy Catholic Bookshelf at Patheos, I’m sort of a part-time Patheosi…and so I was thrilled to discover this morning that Simcha Fisher, Queen of Spit-takes, is bringing her blog, “I Have to Sit Down“, to the Catholic Channel at Patheos.

I call her “Queen of Spit-takes” not because she’s commits them frequently (she may, I don’t know) but because she’d frequently induce them at my house if I weren’t careful about what I’m drinking while reading her blog. She has great good sense, and a real knack for putting sentences together. Go take a look!

Lawn Chair Catechism, Session 3

LawnChairCatechismSquare This summer, CatholicMom.com is hosting an on-line book discussion group for Sherry Weddell’s Forming Intentional Disciples. Each session will focus on one chapter of the book, and yours truly is participating. Hit the link above to see all of the participants, and to find the discussion questions.

Session 3 of Lawn Chair Catechism is looking at Chapter 2 of Forming Intentional Disciples: “We Don’t Know What Normal Is”.

In this chapter, Sherry Weddell talks about the three journeys that are supposed to be normal parts of being Catholic:

1. The personal interior journey of a lived relationship with Christ resulting in intentional discipleship.

2. The ecclesial journey into the Church through reception of the sacraments of initiation.

3. The journey of active practice (as evidenced by receiving the sacraments, attending Mass, and participating in the life and mission of the Christian community).

I’ve written quite a bit about the “personal interior journey of a lived relationship with Christ“; it’s become one of my things. But Sherry Weddell makes the point that in many of our parishes there’s something like a code of silence about the interior life. It’s something you don’t talk about. Instead, those who are actively pursuing it tend to assume that other Mass-going Catholics are doing the same; and those who aren’t aware that the interior life is even a thing remain unaware.

This is a Bad Thing. Because becoming Catholic and going to Mass every week and not actively pursuing the interior life is like getting married and kissing your spouse once a week and never, ever talking to him or her; and those who don’t know that more is possible are seriously being cheated.

Each time I read this chapter I get all excited. There’s this neat thing I know about that others may not, and I’d like to share it with them, and I’d especially like to share it with others in my parish. Alas, I’ve no real idea how to go about it. One of this week’s discussion questions is, “Are you comfortable talking with others about your relationship with God?” And the answer is, well, yes and no. I’m comfortable talking about my relationship with God. And I’m comfortable talking about it to others once the subject has been broached and I know they are interested. But as an introvert, I’m not all that comfortable talking with others, and I’m not very good at starting conversations with others without some reasonable pretext. If there’s a store called “Small Talk ‘R’ Us”, I don’t work there.

This is one reason I became a Lay Dominican: to have companions on the journey that I can talk to about spiritual things.

(In the unlikely event that anyone from my parish sees this: Hi! Feel free to raise the subject!)